Human race is naturally defensive. We want to be able to express our opinions, and whether we are right or not we tend to stick to our points. When it comes to a difference of opinion, most conversations can turn into conflict and anger. But there are ways to have constructive and calm arguments.
Don’t let your emotions take over:
When trying to prove a point to explain what you are thinking you should clearly stick to the facts. Getting overly emotional usually turns to anger and anger turns to insults and that isn’t a valid argument.
You do not know everything:
It’s impossible for you to know everything about everything. You can have strong opinions and some facts to back you up but make sure to do your research. Chances are your opponent will also have a few facts to prove you wrong.
Be willing to listen:
Half of a well-rounded argument is both parties giving each other their opportunity to explain their point of view while the other listens and considers their perspective. You won’t solve anything by constantly trying to talk over each other.
You might be wrong:
Not all arguments end with a winner and a loser, but it’s more than likely that one of you may be incorrect in your judgment or facts. You as a participant have to be willing to either accept that you are wrong or that someone might have a valid argument.
Just because you believe something does not always make you right. Now, you can argue until you are blue in the face or you can learn from your debates. You can use your disagreements as a chance to both grow as a debater and as a conversationalist.